Every Kids Needs Daddy – Happy Father's Day, Dads!

I believe men really get a raw deal in these days of such progressiveness.

And maybe I shouldn’t use this video in a courtroom to defend my forthcoming argument on why I think kids need they daddies. But, c’mon. That was AWESOME.

I read/see/observe slam after slam after slam on how poorly men behave, dress, don’t pick things up, can’t find things in the fridge, scratch their bellies, fart, breathe wrong, and/or don’t put their dirty clothes in the laundry basket. To name a few.

I am not saying there isn’t truth ringing in the claims listed and not listed above. I have known a handful of pretty pathetic men. Ya know, the “typical guy”. His muscles serve as a distraction for missing synapse connections in duh brain. Maybe it’s the muscle that sucks from the brain itself. I’m sure some scientific study is being conducted as I write…. However, I believe those men are the exception and not the rule. And in this case, if I were to use the label “exceptional”, it would not be a compliment.

Who knows, maybe those are they guys whose daddies were absent, either physically or emotionally. I probably shouldn’t make such a sweeping generalization. *shame on me* I digress.

I believe most men, like most women… are not perfect!

*gasp* I just said women are not perfect. Don’t hit me.

But I also believe we don’t want “perfect”. No. Fun.

I believe most regular fellas out there are just guys trying to figure things out in the midst of sorting through stress and circumstance and fridges with a ketchup bottle that never gets put away in the same spot.

And now my point - kids need their daddies. They need what Mommy simply cannot provide. Sometimes Dad will provide a looseness, or maybe bring in the reigns… Dads provide something that Moms just can’t. I can’t give a list. I can’t draw a picture. I can’t describe it in a poem. But there is just “something” about what a father can give to his children.

As I write, my husband is wrapping up a 5 day camping trip with my son. This is probably their 6th year of going to this Father/Son camp with a group of other guys. Those guys do things at Boys Camp we moms would NEVER allow, consider or conceive. And those boys need that. They need to be brainwashed.

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Like running with large logs and chasing friends. *mommy gets chills*

I also adore my husband and though I find myself questioning his decisions (because I am always right) I trust him. I trust him not only with my son’s physical needs, but also his emotional needs. I trust him with our daughters too.

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And this is where our modern-progressive society ticks me off. Dads/men get painted as these mindless, witless, blobs who scratch their bellies and play xBox in their basements while the kids run amuck feeding themselves corn chips, dirt and pop.

OK. I know this happens, but again – the EXCEPTION and not the rule. Even if it is one night a month *ahem* ;)

And as women whine and complain about “men”… they forget that they are talking about their sons! Seriously. I’m not saying there is not ever a reason to get justifiably irritated. But, *hello!!!* it goes both ways!

Also, Ladies with sons – as we criticize and make fun of “men”, our sons are hearing this. They are forming opinions about their fathers… and sadly, opinions about who they are becoming.

Our sons… Future daddies, future husbands… future men. As we speak ill of this “group” it is easy to lose sight of the fact that we have birthed and profoundly love that which we criticize, judge and… sadly (in some cases), hate.

*steps off soapbox*

I love my husband. He works hard. He is an honorable man with integrity. He loves us deeply. He leaves his dirty clothes on the floor, and steps over stuff. He makes the BEST margaritas. He half-listens and fully listens. He plays the guitar. My kids LONG to spend time with their daddy. He looses his cool, but I think he is more patient than me. I appreciate that because he wrestles with the kids, I do not need to. I hate wrestling. Some nights when we lay in bed, we talk in the dark and laugh… laugh… laugh… usually “one-upping” each other in comedic one-liners. He is not easily angered, and has an admirable and amazing ability to “mend and keep fences”… He is a peacemaker. He is not perfect, he admits it, and I adore him.

I would say the best choice I have made for my life was to choose him – for my husband… for the father of our children.

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And if you look closely, you will see he spilled margarita down the front of his shirt.

We believe he has a small hole in his lower lip.

And he’s mine… ALLLLLL mine ;)

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9 Responses to “Every Kids Needs Daddy – Happy Father's Day, Dads!”

  1. D... says:

    Sing it loud, Jenny! I say all the time that the best decision I ever made was choosing my man to be the daddy of my children. He is wonderful at it. And as a husband. I drew the big straw. I’m happy that you did, too.

  2. Trish says:

    you mom’s out there that have men in your lives that love your kids are truly blessed…your kids are truly blessed….please never lose sight of this…! I am blessed that my own father has taken on that role with my children and today is day to reflect how lucky I am to have him in my life and lives of my children. Days like this can be hard for some to focus on the postive- but (once again)God opens my eyes by showing me that my dad beinging a father to my kids is a wonderful blessing I have been given .

  3. MichelleGj says:

    Thank you for writing this… I am a stepmom of 4 kids and I have 1 of my own. I have watched my husband be alienated from his kids by his ex-wife on so many occasions, it’s very disheartening. It’s nice to see that some people appreciate what fathers can provide!

  4. Michelle says:

    OMG. You got me Gafawing and peeing in my pants with that video.
    Kids DO need their dads!
    Big Happy Father’s Day to Paul!

  5. Lizulfisa says:

    Oh.. I got all goose-bumpy and whatnot. Cheers to imperfect men!

  6. furiousBall says:

    that was sweet lady, good on you for recognizing the value of dads, we’re not all that bad, i swear.

  7. Happy Dad’s Day indeed! Hope you guys had a total blast – you always do!

  8. You are one lucky girl!

  9. Dumblond says:

    That was very sweet. And I am very relieved to see that your Paul is not the only one who has a hole in his lip…maybe it’s a Paul thing…

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